Happiness

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. hen we are frustrated that the kids aren't enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We willcertainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life". This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, reassure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time...and remember that time waits for no one...

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy..

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

adakah itu CINTA?

Adakah tapak tanganmu berkeringat, hatimu berdebar kencang dan suaramu tersekat di dadamu?Itu bukan Cinta, itu SUKA.
Adakah kamu tidak dapat melepaskan pandangan mata darinya?Itu bukan Cinta, itu NAFSU.
Adakah kamu menginginkannya kerana kamu tahu ia ada di sana?Itu bukan Cinta, itu KESEPIAN.
Adakah kamu mencintainya kerana itulah yang diinginkan semua orang?Itu bukan Cinta, itu KESETIAAN.
Adakah kamu tetap mengatakan kamu menyintainya kerana kamu tidak ingin melukaihatinya?Itu bukan Cinta, itu BELAS KASIHAN.
Adakah kamu menjadi miliknya kerana pandangan matanya membuat hatimu melompat?Itu bukan Cinta, itu TERGILA-GILA.
Adakah kamu memaafkan kesalahannya kerana kamu mengambil berat tentangnya?Itu bukan Cinta, itu PERSAHABATAN.
Adakah kamu mengatakan padanya bahawa setiap hari hanya dia yang kamu fikirkan?Itu bukan Cinta, itu DUSTA.
Adakah kamu rela memberikan semua perkara yang kamu senangi untuk kepentingan dirinya?Itu bukan Cinta, itu KEMURAHAN HATI.
Tetapi
Adakah kamu tetap bertahan kerana campuran antara kesakitan dan kegembiraan yang membutakan dan tak terfahami … menarikmu mendekati dan tetap bersamanya?ITULAH CINTA.
Apakah kamu menerima kesalahannya kerna itu bahagian dirinya dan siapa dirinya?Jika demikian, ITULAH CINTA.
Adakah kamu tertarik dengan orang lain tapi setia dengannya tanpa penyesalan?Jika demikian, ITULAH CINTA.
Adakah kamu menangis kerana kesakitannya walaupun saat itu dia kuat?ITULAH CINTA.
Adakah hatimu sakit dan hancur ketika dia bersedih?ITULAH CINTA.
Adakah hatimu gembira ketika dia berbahagia?ITULAH CINTA.
Adakah matanya melihat hatimu dan menyentuh jiwamu begitu mendalam sehingga menusuk?Yang demikian itulah namanya CINTA.

I've learned that....

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.

I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.

I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.

I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

Selamat Hari Raya Aidiladha

Looking for my bestfren

this is a translated lyrics of XUN YOU QI SHI by Ming dao n Meng Zhe from YING YE SAN JIA YI..the lyrics is very meaningful to me..enjoy!

Suddenly in an ordinary night

i remembered the girl that we both chased when we were young

How she is now?whether her tears are still so clear

suddenly i thought of the cut near your mouth

does it still stir up your look of hatred

or has it now become

only thing i can give you is courage

and energy to think of me again

Who knew that road in the same town can be so long

as time passed

many walls are built accidentally

i really hope to turn back time

with you we'd not go home

and roam the streets

i know that now and the past

many things are different

i still want to find those strands of memory both of us left behind

quietly beside you

even if it's just looking and keeping silent

Suddenly in this ordinary night

dad and mum mentioned us the bunch of troublemakers

cutely and determinedly

advised me to look at how we are now

suddenly i remembered the field where we graduated

if anyone still go there occasionally to loiter

we have all grown up

but lost the courage to support things together

Anyone knows how my friends are doing now

if they have anything

that they need my help with

tell them that i'm waiting

we'll meet at the heaven

that we once went to

I know that many of my friends are different now

but they gave me the wings to fly happily

even if it was a lonely street

just staring at the lamp post

and not thinking of anything

They are in my heart

they're wandering by themselves now

they are beside me

I am in their heart

child's definition of love

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." Rebecca - age 8

When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy - age 4

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other." Karl - age 5

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy - age 6

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri - age 4

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." Danny - age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss" Emily - age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen," Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate," Nikka - age 6

"There are two kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them." Jenny - age 8

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle - age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." Tommy - age 6

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore," Cindy - age 8

"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night." Clare - age 6

"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine -age 5

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 7

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." Mary Ann - age 4

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." Lauren - age 4

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." Karen - age 7

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross." Mark - age 6

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget," Jessica - age 8

"Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, "Nothing, I just helped him cry."

cerita lawak...

Di sebuah kg ada 3 org remaja yg suka lepak. Sorang tu nama dia Ali, sorang tu Budin dan sorang lagi Ciko. Aktiviti seharian depa ni menybbkan tok imam tak senang duduk. Padd satu hari tok imam tu datang dengan niat nak tarbiyah depa ni.
Maka berlakulah beberapa insiden cabar-mencabar. Tok imam tu cabar si mangkuk 3 ekor tu ke surau waktu Maghrib nanti.
Si Ali pun berkata, "Tok imam ingat kami ni jahil sangat ke? Takpa, nanti kami buktikan yg kami bukan la jahil sangat seperti yang disangkakan" .
Maka apabila hampir masuk waktu Maghrib pegilah malaun 3 ekor tu ke surau.
Tok imam pun suruh Ali azan. Tanpa berlengah terus je Ali azan, "Allah Ta'ala... Allah Ta'ala...". Dengan segera tok imam merampas mikrofon daripada Ali dan menyuruh Tok Bilal azan semula. Terselah kejahilan Ali.
Selepas iqamat, masa nak sembahyang tok imam pun mengangkat takbiratul ihram. Tok imam pun satu hal, angkat sekali tak khusyuk, angkat 2 kali pun tak khusyuk jugak lagi...
Masuk je kali ketiga, Budin panggil tok imam. "Tok,tok duduk kat belakang, biar saya jadi imam." Tok imam pun undur le ke belakang.
Budin pun angkat le takbiratul ihram. "Allahu akbar!" Maka para makmum pun ikut angkat takbiratul ihram & memulakan solat. Tiba-tiba je si Budin ni pusing ke belakang dan berkata, "Aaa, tengok! Sekali jee tokkkk!!" Lalu batallah solat Budin. Yg lain-lain pun ikut berenti sambil ketawa terbahak-bahak.
Tok imam pun mintak pulak si Ciko jadi imam. Si Ciko pun terus ke depan jadi imam solat tersebut bermula dari takbir sampai le habis sembahyang. Siap dg wirid-wiridnya sekali. Punyalah respek tok imam kat si Ciko niii...
Lepas solat, tok imam pun puji-memuji leee si Ciko ni... Tapi dgn bongkaknye si Ciko berkata,
"He hee, itu belum ambil wuduk lagi tu.Kalau tak, lagi dassat aku semayang. He heee..."
Tok imam pun terkedu & terpana...